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Review of Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell

Publisher:  Little, Brown and Company     

Published: 2019  Pages: 388   

Books that help me to better understand the complexities of being human, and sometimes the surprising reality that we’re more predictable than we think, are my favorite. My hope to learn more about being human and interacting with others is why I began reading Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell.

Why can’t we tell when the stranger in front of us is lying to our face?

How is it that meeting a stranger can sometimes make us worse at making sense of that person than not meeting them?

Readers begin receiving some help answering these questions from Gladwell in Part 2, when he demonstrates how people are hardwired to default to truth. Even CIA agents, police officers and judges, people we often think should be experts at reading strangers and interpreting their intentions, are as susceptible to erroneous interpretations as the rest of us, especially if the subject of scrutiny is standing right in front of them. Gladwell analyzes how Bernie Madoff was able to pull of the largest Ponzi Scheme in history as well as the Jerry Sandusky trial to support his claims.

In Part 3, the author answers the second puzzle he posed to readers in Part 1. He demonstrates how people’s actions and behavior don’t always align with what’s happening internally. He uses the body language of facial expressions as well as analyzes the Amanda Knox case and that of Brock Turner to prove his point.

Readers are cautioned to “accept that the search to understand a stranger has real limits” in Part 4. Gladwell assures readers that “the harder we word at getting strangers to reveal themselves, the more elusive they become.” This is supported by real world examples of trying to force the truth out of people by drastic measures such as waterboarding. When dramatic approaches are taken to pry the truth from someone, they may well lie due to the perceived existential threat. We are taught that “the right way to talk to strangers is with caution and humility.”

Part 5 of the book delves into the relationship between context and behaviors, labeled as Coupling. We learn about the suicide of Sylvia Plath, a famous American poet and writer. Gladwell hands readers evidence to suggest that were the contextual reality surrounding Ms. Plath’s suicide different, she may not have succeeded in taking her own life. he argues the same is true for areas of high crime: the context in which it takes place matters and can be targeted in order to reduce crime in major cities such as Atlanta and Minneapolis.

In Talking to Strangers, Malcolm Gladwell continues his ability to write books that are fascinating and easy to read. If you would like to improve your understanding of how we talk to strangers, or rather how to avoid traumatic experiences like that of Sandra Bland, I encourage you to read this book. It is one of the most relatable, insightful, and practical books I’ve picked up in ages. 

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Review of Good Habits, Bad Habits by Wendy Wood

As we enter into a new year, even a new decade, many of us are reflecting on what we learned from the past as well as how we want to change for the future. For me, the first words that come to mind when describing the last decade are a hot mess.

From the very beginning of the previous decade, I felt like I was hit over the head with tough lessons and massive obstacles to overcome. For the most part, I was able (sometimes barely) to keep my head above water. I struggled and staggered and persisted. In the end, I stumbled out of a decade in the trenches with a much clearer understanding of the world and my place in it. After having spent a lot of time wrestling with big picture stuff like health and wellness and love and relationships, I’m ready to shift my perspective to the small daily changes I can incorporate that will have a large impact on my productivity and growth in the new year and decade ahead.

It was with this mindset that I picked up Good Habits, Bad Habits by Dr. Wendy Wood, a Provost Professor of Psychology and Business at the University of Southern California. It’s a 300-page look at “The Science of Making Positive Changes that Stick.” The book is divided into three parts: How We Really Are, The Three Bases of Habit Formation, and lastly, Special Cases, Big Opportunities, and the World Around Us. Continue reading “Review of Good Habits, Bad Habits by Wendy Wood”


Five tips for pitching to literary agents

As I struggle to better understand the world of writing and publishing, I frequently encounter the topic of pitching.

What’s that?” you ask.

A pitch is the author’s means to persuade an agent or editor that her book is marketable and worthy of their time and effort to get published.

Recently, the Atlanta Writers Club facilitated a seminar titled “Pitch, Please: An Agent’s Guide to Pitches and Queries” by Caroline George, who is an Associate Agent with Cyle Young Literary Elite.

I enjoyed Ms. George’s seminar because, in addition to sharing a loads of useful information, she was funny, relatable, professional, and encouraging. She definitely came across an agent with whom most people would want to work.

The statement she made which I appreciated most was this: If you stay in the (writing and pitching) game long enough, you will be successful.

So here are my takeaways from Ms. George’s seminar about pitching to literary agents:

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